Category: the Rant Board
I'd just like to say that my co-dependence on a sighted world is really starting to get to me. I try to do as much on my own as I possibly can, because asking for help makes me feel uncomfortable to begin with, and actually eliciting genuine help from people is worse than pulling teeth. If I am asking you to help me with something, trust and believe that there is no possible alternative but for me to ask. My particular situation, for anyone who cares is this: I have a rather terrible history with computers. I do a lot of processor intense tasks and I also can't see so sometimes I drop shit or knock shit over... whatever. Long story short I can't keep a good laptop to save my life! I have been to the computer repair shop five times alone in like the past two weeks.
I digress however, I am a producer of sorts and I need to reinstall Maschine, which is one of the programs that I use to sample chop, and construct beats with. I have had to do this a few times now and it does take a bit of time and effort for downloads to complete but the install process isn't accessible at all so it is impossible for me to do it on my own. It is just completely frustrating that one of my outlets for my boredom and negative emotions is completely shut off to me. I can't find help from anywhere, and it makes no sense to me! I try to help out people as much as I can, with time, with money, whatever is within my power to give I do, yet when I need the help of others it is just such a big fucking inconvenience to extend the same courtesy to me. Quite honestly it's not good for my mental health to be cut off from something that I depend so heavily upon to give my life meaning and purpose. No one else seems to understand how big of a deal this is to me, and I refuse to beg people to help me. I am to proud for that shit, so instead I am left with passive aggressively ranting on a board that none of the people I know will ever see and continuing to be helpless.
Oh well. . . fuck'em.
PDIII
So find a different wa of doing it. If you need sighted help, take a cab to a
computer store and pay someone to do it. Then they'll have to care because its
their job to care. Or find a different program that you can install on your own. If
it bothers you that much, find a way to fix it.
Agreed and I will add the following. It sounds to me as if you are doing your best so if you need to ask for help there is certainly no shame in that. If the helper in question is bothered by that go somewhere else to get help.
It's not like I haven't tried to find a way or anything. Just kind of ran out of ideas...
I like that computer store idea, thanks for that. Going to give that a go. It might present some challenges due to the way this program has to be installed. I'd have to give out some personal information to the tech but it could work.
Hmmm, I wonder what it is that makes you uncomfortable to ask for help. Do you think that as a general rule, people don't ask for help unless they absolutely need it after exhausting every other option? Are you embarrassed by it, are you shy, or is it a combination of these?
You have to give out personal information to the tech, and that's why you haven't gone to a computer store yet? Do you not realize that people have to give personal information to techs period, if they want/need their help? Also, if it's really that big an issue for you, type in the information for them by having them tell you which field you are in, if you are not able to use a screen reader for any part of the process.
Ah, but you've not asked for help at the onw place that can help you. Here on the Zone.
On this post, you've gotten several ideas.
As for dropping your computers, how about getting a desktop? I'm not sure why you drop things because you're blind, but you can't drop a desktop, just the keyboard.
Put it in a stand and you can't even knock it over.
It sits on the floor, but is high enough off the floor, so that if your plumbing breaks and you have a water spill, it won't matter.
At the computer store, you don't have to give out any personal information at all. Use your screen reader to type your password, or remove it for the work.
Did you know most phone companies, or whoever provides your internet services will send a tech to your home if you ask?
Most offer for a few dollars a month on top of your bill technical support, and that is in home support.
Ask the right people, and you'll not have to pull teeth at all.
@runner229
I just really don't like asking for help. I'm not a shy person by any means. I just feel if I do things myself it will avoid a lot of headache. I can be a little particular about the way I do things, and it's hard to be that way when someone else is assisting you. you know what I mean?
@chelslicious
I realize how easy it is to sit at home safe and sound behind your key board and attack other people and try to make them appear stupid, but perhaps you might collect all the information before jumping to conclusions. Perhaps I am over reacting a bit, but I sense a bit of unnecessary condescension and that's really not needed. I use the services of computer repairmen quite often as is outlined in my original post so I know generally how the process works. In this particular case I am not referring to something as simple as an account password to access my computer. I am talking about the password to my native instruments account which has my physical address as well as my credit card information attached to it. In addition to this the software uses serial numbers, which as a paying customer I have access too, and since I've invested well over 2 thousand dollars in to this software, I'd be pretty pissed if Joe blow computer guy decided to copy my numbers and distribute them across the internet. Lastly, if I were to do this, I'd have to likely babysit the person because once you're in my native instruments account downloads can be transferred to other computers and I'm just not comfortable exposing myself to that kind of risk or taking that type of responsibility. Thanks for taking the time to reply to my concern though, really appreciate the thought and effort you put in to that.
@forereel
This is true, I have. also I am trying to get a desktop that can handle the demands that my production puts on it, but at this time I can't really afford it. As soon as I can I will though.
Wow Chelsae is not looking down on you she was pointing something out. I am a tech and I collect personal info all the time. It's really not that scary.
then my apologies, I must have let my sensativity to the whole subject cloud my judgement.
Oh I understand asking for help isn't easy. It's quite humbling but at times it must be done.
Hi there. As far as asking your sighted friends to help you, I guess I can see both sides of it really. If they've already helped you with it once or twice and now you need it again, I can see how they'd be frustrated with it, feeling that they're waisting their time, since it'll just be a matter of time before you're going to need it again. On the other hand, if you're their friend and you do your part and they really know you, they'll know that being a bit clumsy is one of your quirks.
Yes, I too absolutely hate to ask for help, so I sure get that side of it. If you have a friend who needs a bit of extra cash once in a while, make it work for both of you. If not, cabbing it to the computer store is probably your best bet.
Which version of the software do you use? I'm looking around for it. thought maybe i'd take a look at it and see if I could figure out a way to install it.
So I'm a senior citizen and thought I would put a different spin on things. With you spilling things, is there a medical issue you don't know about? I mean do you have high blood pressure and aren't medicated for it? I was. Had to get out on my own then get diagnosed and have proper medicine for my condition. No family wanted to face the fact that there was a medical problem along with blindness that I had. Good luck with your computer issues. Good ideas out here for getting a computer person in a store to help you. Trust me, at my age, asking for help gets old too. Am in my late 60s.
Legit, and bonded techs don't want your information.
They don't want the suit you'll bring on them.
Such as Best Buy, they have absolutely no cause to be fooling around with you.
The service is called Geek Squad.
As for asking for help. What about the sighted person who can't do these things even though they can see perfectly?
I also do technical work, and the blind aren't the only ones requiring help.
If you wish to say it is because you are blind, seeing people need cars, houses, plumbing, and you name it fixed at some point.
The must ask directions, get technical support for cellphones.
Maybe try not to look at your need for help as a limitation, but a need to get you were you want to be.
This goes for absolutely anything you require.
Maybe you post your computing needs, or requirements, and one of us here will post a desktop that has the power you require at the price you can afford to pay.
No harm in asking questions.
I believe myself to be able, and I mean that.
I can repair just about anything, go were I need to go, or whatever, but sometimes I simply need help.
Asking for that help gets it done for me.
Smile.
And what sort of info do you think us techs collect besides your name and phone number?
He says.
His credit card, and he'll probably give that to pay.
His passwords, that can be changed after the softwares installed.
He's afraid they'll copy his data and pass it around, that will be grounds for a suit.
Yes, and not only that, but a tech would not engage in such practices do to today's security climate.
the program is native instruments maschine 2. then I have to instal a series of updates through the service center.
a desktop with I7 and quad core with expandable ram would be preferable.
I've already stated that the information that I'm talking about goes beyond the basic info. I've had to get my hard drive replaced so again I've had to give my name and phone number and pay with a credit card EtC. It goes beyond that. I'm paranoid, but not quite that bad lol.
It sounds like you are having accessibility issues with the software.
$Money, if you go back and reread my post, you should see that I was not attacking you or being condescending. In fact, I provided an idea as to how you could resolve your issue. I suggested that you could have a sighted person at a computer store or elsewhere read which field you are in, then you could type in the information the field requires yourself. This way, you wouldn't have to worry about the person writing down the information for later use or whatever. (As was said though, that's really unlikely to happen nowadays).
To address your not wanting to ask for help, everyone, sighted or blind, has to ask for help. No one particularly likes having to do it, but it's something that has to be done if you wanna succeed and get what you need from society. Because trust me, you could save yourself more headaches just by asking for help because like it or not, sometimes it's just easier for others to quickly complete a task you need help with, than to sit there for five hours while you try to do it yourself.
Exactly.
Howe much cash you got for that desktop?
We need a budget?
Maybe that credit cards got some slack on it ready to burn?
All desktops have expandable ram.
Most can be packed with 16GB and up.
The latest Intel, because you said I7 are different, or come in different levels.
I'll bet 8GB ram and a i7 with 4 cores would be enough machine for you flat out.
$500 about.
That even sounds a bit pricey. Sometimes you can do a lot with less. You do need some good hardware for what you're doing though.
I haven't read past post 8, but consider paying someone off Craigslist a few bucks to come assist you.
That sounds like it could do the trick and is with in a reasonable price range. What model spacifically did you have in mind? And yeah premium hardware is a must, besides my occasional clumsyness, I've just flat out had computers fail on me from what I believe to be the workload I was placing on it. That may be a false impression though
Chelslicious yeah, I realized after I got out of my feelings and actuallly read the post. but even if it is easier I'm still not all that comfortable with it. I think I've been conditioned that way, and learned behavior can be unlearned but it might take a while.
I understand that because I was brought up to not ask for help. It's ridiculous as we all need help so I had to reteach myself.
I'd go with Dell's XPS line, or HP's line for entertainment.
To get that price, you have to watch for sales.
Dell changes them each week on Wednesdays.
You haven't over worked a machine. They just slow down.
If over heated they shutdown.
You probably dropped it to often, being you told us that was one of the problems you have.
You can over heat them too, and that may have happened due to how clean you keep your work area, and the machine.
When they are working hard, they heat up, so need proper cooling.
A desktop as I've described won't have that problem unless you allow it to get clogged with dust in the vents.
Anything has to be given some level or care, or it will fail.
Sometimes a build of a machine just isn't right, so they fail.
By the extended plan if that worries you.
Dell's XPS line comes with a pretty good one, but you can extend that.
If and when you are actually ready to buy, maybe post a topic looking for a new computer, and give a price on it.
I and others will respond to it with deals.
Also consider uSB fans.
$Money, most people were brought up to not ask for help, just like you were. I am not trying to minimize your particular issue, but I really think you are making this 1000 times harder on yourself by using that as a crutch. I mean, as I said, most people had to unlearn plenty of things they were brought up to believe were normal; it's definitely doable though. Hard work sure, but that's life for ya!! Nothing is ever easy for anyone.
Yup. Hell, I've had to unlearn a good percentage of what I've had drilled into my head.
my husband and I just finished dinner and were discussing your situation. he is also blind and mentiontd the apple platform. perhaps the studio or company or whatever you work for doesn't support the McIntosh. anyway, jim highly recommends logic pro. it is powerful, accessible and easy to use. cheaper alternatives are amadaus or garage band.
I just realized I mis spelled amadaeuss which I still can't spell worth crap. it's the middle name of Mozart.
one more thing to think about. asking for assistance is not codependent. it is interdependence. there is a difference. when it stands alone, the mighty oak tree is strong. when the winds of a storm blow. it cracks and falls. on the other hand willow trees are small and weak. however, their branches interweave and they are stronger as a thicket. so it should be for humans. no one knows everything. requesting assistance is not shameful. often I have found it is beneficial both to me and the person who is assisting. during the communication process we often glean information totally unrelated to the problem at hand that can help us in the future. just a thought... enjoy your day.
below post might offend some of you guys here, however, I believe that everyone have the opinion of it's own.
To the original post, you said that you don't like to ask for help, are you not liking to ask for help because you believe that you can do everything by yourself, or, you are too proud to ask for help, or you are too bothered by what people might think about you and your ability?
I think, as a blind person, at times, we need to self evaluate and self-aware, on what we can, and cannot do. There are times that we need to ask for help, or where else we will struggle, and there are time that we can do things by our own. asking for geneuen help is not by any kind of imagination means that you are weak, or you are disadvantage. infact, knowing how to ask for help is a strength by itself, as long as you are not asking for help for ramdom thing, e.g. making coffee when you know very well that you can, or cutting food in to pieces when you know you can do it yourself. What i'm trying to say is, there are different between being lazy and asking for help or accepting help as it comes, and the othr extreme, being too proud, being a bit arrogant even, and believe that you can do everything by yourself.
This seems like an easy solution, where you might able to get someone sighted to help you, to solve it, rather than spending time ranting here.
As far as credit card is concern, to be honest, by the time you shop online, by the time you purchase the software, actually, by the time you have a credit card, someone somewhere will already have your card information. Your bank as a start, and perhaps even other external services. Like some already suggest, you can get your stuff to the computer store, and ask them fix it for you, or you can employ someone to do it for you, or, you can try figure it out yourself by spending unnecesarry time ranting about the situation.
Sometime, we need to learn to trust a little, learn to leave a little, and unblind our blindness that is more than just our eyes.
Yes so true. I like what you said about performing self-evaluation. Be honest about your abilities.
Touching on the post about logic, I do use logic pro. And while it is pricy, it will do everything you will ever want it to, and it has features that help you not have to buy a mad powerful computer, though macs are just expensive anyway.
Moving on, I am a tech, I have been building and fixing computers for years, and I still have to ask for help sometimes. Sometimes I get all in my head and want to figure out things on my own, but the average session player, or vocalist, is not going to sit there for hours while you figure out one thing. In situations like that, when time is a factor, it’s just better to ask for help. As producing is not my full time job, and I am working somewhere else 40 hours a week, I can’t sit there for hours and hours most of the time trying to figure something out, and the people I record a produce for just want it done, so I ask people who know how to do it. Also helps me learn if I ask them to tell me how to do it, rather than just doing it, though I do understand you can’t always do that. This program you’re using, I have never heard of it. Besides the setup process witch as you said is not accessible, does the program work with screen readers pretty well? I know some people who produce in windows, but I never had much luck with it without having to drop a bunch of money on something. Me personally I produce in logic. I just dropped the 200 dollars, got the program, mostly accessible out of the box, the 3,000 sounds and effects or so it came with, and off I went. Not everyone can do that, but if you really want to produce with no hassle, I suggest looking into apple. That is what most major producers use now, and logic pro as well as pro tools has been accepted as one of the music industry standards. Just would make it better if you wanted to produce with someone else. 80 percent of the time, they are going to be using a program from the apple platform, but you like what you like. I suggest getting a desktop, not keeping it on your desk, or on the floor beside your desk, and maybe just stop having spillable things on your desk as you know you are spilling them. Not a stab at you, just a suggestion. Also, outside of your computer setup, do you have a board, controller, and all the other things most people need to produce? I noticed you did notice any of these other things being damaged, which is why I suggested a desktop, because like the controller, mixer, eq, compressor, whatever, you’re not going to be moving it and picking it up all the time.
See, I had some terrible experiences asking for help. I know most people who have vision issues, don't have caregivers, or anyone to help with stuff like that. Believe me, that's cool. I'd give it all up, if I could mop a floor and do the other stuff that I don't have strength to do. But, what the original poster gets, I'd bet, is: "Where's your caregiver?"
God only knows why, but the people that do not live with us all the time, assume, we have someone to "Wipe when we use the toilet."
Well, they should understand, we don't. We have computers that do that. LOL JK!
Seriously, I'm afraid to ask for help too much. People know, and go to the social worker involved with my care. "Did you know your client needs help getting here or there?"
No, that's not what I need, I need to "learn to get there and back," like Bilbo.
Even though folks know what I can do, and sometimes I need help, I still am scared to ask for help.
As far as computers, get a desktop. You'll save loads of computers that way.I had to learn that the hard way. Braille-Lites are hard to come by, and I dropped the llast one I had. So, I am going to have whatever note taker set up so I don't drop it, and also keep buying these out-of-date, desktops, because, they're too heavy, and I won't drop them.
And, if I do get a laptop, I'll do this:
I'll get a regular keyboard to hook to it. If I change where I'm at, I'll move it, set it down, and hold Mister Keyboard in my lap. LOL And, I'll sit down, since my balance is not dependable, and wheel that laptop where I want it. I may drop it once, or twice, but sitting down means I can catch it with my feet. They're fine, it's my legs that aren't working right, and of course, my brain. LOL
I seriously hope and pray this helps. Computers are pricy.
God Bless,
Sarah
Somebody once asked me where my care giver was and I said "you're looking at him." They were so confused haha.
i don't necessary believe that is the case. of course, it comes down to how independent the society think one is. For example, if i'm going out by myself, no one will question me about my carer, or so call care giver. However, if i go out with someone sighted, having someone sighted guide me, then, of course, the general perception will be that the sighted person will be my care taker, my carer, my care giver etc. Then, every question will be directed to that sighted person, instead of me. From what she, means me likes to eat, to all sorts of different questions.
It comes down to how willing one stepping out of those confort zone, challenge and take matters in to their own hands. Also, in a way, it comes down to how independent one can bbe, and what the person represent in society.
There are different with a blind person dressing up nice and tidy going out to town than a blind person dressing up in tract suit pans and crumple jamas.
Yes, we might not able to bring down all barriers, or change the mindset of what others think about us, but at times, it is also up to us to take the responsibility on ourselves and actively engage and make a different in our own life.
I am deffinitly going to have to start a topic on this logic pro, I've heard of it of course but did not know it was accessible. The program I use is not, by itself accessible, but with some memorization, a few self made hotspot sets, and my Maschine studio controller it is about 85 to 90 percent. I am self-employed so the switch wouldn't be that big of an issue.
And not that I like to rehash issues, but I do believe that all of our opinions on this particular topic is colored by our own personal experience. I've gotten some really good advice and some people have really said some wise things and I appreciate the help lol. really
Well, I think that there needs to be a clarification on this issue to begin with. My clarification is for the word “Codependent” and what it means.
Codependent is a term that’s found in some areas of Psychology, but mainly in certain 12-step addiction recovery programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. When a person is in alcohol addiction or drug addiction, the person living with them become so preoccupied with getting the addict out of dangerous situations brought about by their addictive behaviors. The addict in this relationship doesn’t have to change and is basically given a warm place to stay and little in the way of consequences by the person with whom they live. The partner rescuing them constantly worries about them and can even use the problems of the addict as a means by which to not have to focus on their own issues or life. They also can use the current problems going on with the addict to fuel and worsen their own pathologies such as control issues, abuse of children in the home and to practice various manipulative behaviors on not only the addict, but others around them. In short, Codependent is really a way of calling this little more than a sick and toxic relationship.
James
and that, ladies and gentlemen, is a textbook example of overthinking
something and not reading. James, codependent in this instance means asking
for help. Having to depend on the sighted person. Know how I know that? Its
what he's asking about in the first post. Why in the world did you go running off
into the world of psychology and addiction? Is he addicted to his sighted help?
Does he drink sighted people like boxed wine? does he shoot up sighted people
like heroin? No, he's asking them for help with an issue and not liking it. Next
time you want to show off your intellect, try doing it on a subject to which it
pertains.
Smile.
Yes it's called context. Now we know that James is a walking dictionary.
You all are just mean!!!
It isn't to be mean believe me.
you know it wasn't until about six months ago that I even heard the title care giver. some one asked me where mine was and I asked them what on earth they were talking about. they said it was someone who takes care of me. I said well that's my husband. I take care of him and he takes care of me. oh yes I also took care of my kids as they were growing up. so I guess I was their care giver. they told me to go sit down and be quiet.
And did you?
Laughing.
Well, if I don't know what the fuck I'm talking about, then I guess I need to go up to the lobby of my dorm right now, find one of the RSMs and give them my I.D. card, get all my financial aid revoked, shut things down with this school and just go back home then. Yeah, Cody, you know it all and I guess I don't know what the fuck I'm talking about do I.
You talk about me going in other directions with this, maybe you need to read the post again. I don't use the word "Co-dependency" lightly and I'm well aware of what the O.P. meant. So before you act like the little punk-ass little cunt that you clearly are, try reading my posts and read the mother fucking things in their entirety before you accuse me of saying things I didn't say or imply. All I was doing, was adding to what he was saying by giving the original meaning of what "Co-Dependency" means so that people don't start confusing it with inter-dependency and there are people who do this sometimes, and I was one of them.
Given that my family is packed full of addicts and people who have co-dependency issues, I don't talk about this subject lightly and I certainly didn't do it so you Cody could do your trolling. Is there truly nothing or no one you won't fucking troll? To say the least, you have issues kid. You asked why I had to go in to the areas of Psychology, well that's because and let me point this out very carefully for you, you fucking uneducated brain-dead fuck-nut. I took this in the area of Psychology, as certain areas of that are within the classes I'm taking right now and that's the interest I have, is to counsel people and that's where we get that from is from areas of psychology. So is that more clear for you Cody? I hope so, now shut the fuck up and go to the little kids table and let the adults talk, okay?
That sound familiar to you Cody?
James
Actually baranca grand, *you* should look at the context of this topic. We are not talking about addicts; we are talking about the fact the original poster doesn't like/wan to ask for help. So instead of telling others to learn how to read, you should take your own advice, and learn how to stick to the topic at hand rather than being the troll you accuse others of being.
You've really gotta learn when to just shut up James. I will agree that, in this
instance, codependency was not exactly the right word. Dependency would
probably be better, but everyone except you managed to figure out exactly what
the post was about and answer it accordingly. Everyone except you knew how to
use context clues, in this instance the next sentence where he explains exactly
what he meant, to figure out what he meant. None of us got stuck on the
definition of one word that we'd read in our introduction to psychology textbook
last week. You're the only one going off on some completely unrelated tangent
in an effort to do nothing more than show off the fact that you know the
definition of a word. You didn't help the conversation. You didn't give any
advice. You simply felt the need to run through the board screaming "Look at
me everybody, look at me, I know a word, pay attention to me!" well now we're
paying attention to you James, and I for one think you look really stupid.
So, since you haven't learned this lesson yet, I'll teach you. Now, right now,
right this instant, before you reply with one of your rambly pointless posts
wherein you swear badly, before any of that, right now, is when you need to
just shut up. Hit the back button and go to another board where you can swear
badly and get all the attention you want, til you are metaphorically fat and
happy. But here, you're nothing more than an unwanted and annoying
distraction. So shut up and let those of us who actually care about this subject,
address this subject, since you don't seem to be able to do that.
Yes, does your school have a course on reading comprehension?
I'm with James.
Chelsea, your saving Cody routine is annoying. Cody apparently can defend nhimself. I know by context, so don't jump me for reading Cody's verbal insyults. I do not. It's this little thing called a brain, and I can add 1+1, and still get two. Maybe you 2 should be the next Zone couple?
(Laughing!)
As far as Cody goes, you all are rialing him up, and he enjoys it. He wants you to react. Anyone remember Kevin? At least Blackbird/Kevin made it clear he was rialing you for reaction. Cody is just worst, and not worth getting a rise out of him.If Cody dares to respond, I'll hear his Same Sass, Different Posting, so I don't sound like some coward. I'll Ubnignore him long enough to see how he responds to my opinion. It had to be that way. It's just about how lowly little Peeons we are, and he's the bees'knees, and king shit, trying to rile us up. I'll make sure he can respond to my comments on this boared.
He's just like Asshole Peaches. Gotta get that drama going. It's how dumb we are, and how high and nmight he thinks he is.'
Just to say that he's: "Rufflin' you all's feathers." Enjoy.
But aren't you rialing him up then? Just playing devils advocate. If that's your theory, why would you write something he can respond to?
Hmm, some think I wasn't going to post on this topic? Well, here it is and this post actually does have something to do with the topic.
In terms of what the O.P. was saying, I'm not one who likes to ask for help much and whatever I can do on my own without help, I do try to do that. Whenever I need to ask for help navigating around areas whether it be around the college or other places, I like it better when I can do this on my own. For some reason, I feel like I've lost some control when I have to ask someone to help me navigate certain areas, and this is even when they're areas that it's really necessary for me to receive help getting around. I get over it and take the help when I need it though and then just go on with the rest of my day.
So I can understand what the O.P. is saying very well, but I do think this is more about the issue of interdependency not the idea of Co-Dependency which is a term I have, at no time ever heard used that didn't have to do with some sort of pathological context. So much to the horror of some on this site, I'll be that pedantic pain in the ass who will give the word as well as its original context in which it's used if I know what it is. Oh and for anyone who's interested, yes, there are classes of which Reading Comprehention is a part. They're called English Classes. There's English Composition 1 which I'm taking right now. Thanks for asking though.
James
Oh and to Sarah, good points. I have to remind myself that trolls are dealt with best when not given food. LOL.
James
Well, at least you admit you're being a pedantic ass-hat.
Sarah, you also need to learn how to read, because in agreeing with James, you make it clear that you don't understand the context of this topic.
Look Sarah, I've known for a long time that you don't like me for whatever reason, but that's no reason to say I'm agreeing with Cody because you *assume* that our personalities are identical.
Maybe Cody and I should build you and James a bridge, so you can get over it (whatever you all's issues are).